When the escort arrives, treat her like a blind date. Tell her she looks nice. Smile, be friendly. Invite her in. I generally keep a variety of refreshments to offer her, like wine, soft drinks, fruit juice. If you smoke you can let her know she can smoke. If you don’t, then let her know she can’t.
If this is your first time with her, she will probably go into a script. She needs to know you’re not a cop or a violent weirdo or someone who’s going to be trouble. She also needs to let you know that she’s expecting you to pay up front, but she can’t ask you to give her money for sex, because that would be prostitution, and that’s not what she does.
Generally the woman will start out asking something neutral like, “Have you used the service before?” She trying to determine what you know and what she’s going to have to tell you about. If you’ve used other services before then let her know that so she knows that you understand the rules.
If you don’t know what to do and it’s your first time, just say so. That way she can give you the information you need. If you’re embarrassed or nervous, let her know it’s your first time and that you feel a little awkward. This helps her to help you relax, talk a little more, and allow you to get comfortable. Everyone has a first time for calling an escort service and part of the escort’s job is to let you know how to do it.
She will then explain the rules about the agency fee and the tips, tell you that you are expected to pay up front and what the time limits are. She will explain that there are different tips for different services. Eventually she will ask you, “What do you want to do?” When she asks you this, you are expected to tell her what you want. This is usually an awkward moment if it’s your first time. What you want to get across is whether you want to get laid, just want head, or both. And you can just say it if you want, and that’s fine. These women aren’t shy and you can be comfortable talking to them about your sexual interests. That is what they are there for and they aren’t bashful.
It’s just my personality, but I like to start with some humor to break the ice. I may ask, “How much would you charge to have my baby?” This usually gets them laughing — and some find it erotic. They’ll usually say something like, “I don’t do that,” or, “You couldn’t afford it,” to which I might reply, “Well, then, how much for an attempt?” This is a good way to lighten up the mood.
Many women are escorts because they like their job. The more comfortable they feel around you, the more they can enjoy their work.
As I said before, I personally like women who like their work. I like women to enjoy having sex with me. If that’s what you want, then you think like I do. They are trying to give you the pleasures you want, so the more accurately you communicate with them, the easier it is for them to satisfy you as a customer. And like any business women, these women enjoy working with their better clients.
After you let her know what you want it’s time to give her the money. She’ll let you know what she expects and how to pay her. The best way is to lay it on a table and have her pick it up rather than handing it to her. It’s a legal thing: You’re not really giving her thee money for sex. You’re paying her for her time and tipping her because she is a beautiful and attractive woman. And this beautiful woman finds you irresistible as well and you are so attractive that even though she shouldn’t, she just can’t control her desires and can’t resist having sex with you. You get the picture …
After she’s been paid, she will usually have to call the agency and let them know she has arrived, been paid, and that everything is fine so they can start the clock running. (When your time is up, the agency will call you back if she hasn’t called in first.) After she gets off the phone, she’s all yours.
This is the time to start getting relaxed with the escort, time for a little small talk. She may ask what you do; you might ask how long she’s been working in this field and what she likes. If you’re having personal problems, you might want to talk to her about them. I find it’s easier to talk to an escort than a psychologist and the advice is just as good. Escorts are an anonymous person, who is a woman, and you can ask her anything about women that you would be afraid to ask other women you know. Most escorts love to answer these questions and they are glad to fill you in on the secrets that hardly any guys know about what women really want. In fact, although most men think they know women, they really don’t. According to many escorts I’ve talked to, the average guy doesn’t have a clue about what women want. If you ask a few questions you might find that you can learn a lot of things you didn’t know.